Long distance relationship

Quick Tips

New to the whole long distance relationship thing? Is it just hard and you don’t know what to do? Here’s a list of tips that can help you deal until you can get into the swing of things!

1. Breathe & BE POSITIVE. You know that song? “Be optimistic. Don’t be a grumpy! When the road gets bumpy, smile! Smile and be happy!” Yeah, sing that to yourself when you get discouraged. Seriously. It’s going to be okay. It’s hard, but it’s not as hard as you think. You can do it! It gets better. Have hope.

2. Trust them! Trust is the key element in any long distance relationship. Don’t try to convince yourself to trust them. KNOW you can trust them! Don’t doubt them, and trust what they say. Don’t accuse them of cheating or not loving you anymore just because they’ve been busy lately and haven’t been able to speak to you as much.

3. Communicate every day if you can. It’s important to talk and be a part of each other’s daily life as much as possible. Consider using Skype or some form of video chat as much as possible.

4. Talk like you live five minutes away. None of that “If you were here I would… alas, you live a million miles away” stuff. Seriously, you both know you live far away from each other. Why do you keep reminding them? Talk to them like you would a partner who lives in the same town. Instead of “I really wish I could kiss you right now,” try “Come here so I can kiss you!” It takes the sting out of conversation.

5. Three words: Do Things Together. Yes. Do things together. Defy the distance. Watch movies or TV shows together while you’re on the phone or on video chat. If you need help coming up with ideas, there’s a great list of things to do with your partner here.

6. Sexting is okay. If you’re both comfortable with it, go for it. You want to send nudes, great, but be smart about it! If they’re a minor and you’re not, you might want to take into consideration that you can get into massive trouble! Parents can take that very seriously, and so do the authorities. Use common sense.

7. Have a routine. Find a time that works for both of you and call or get on video chat! Maybe it’s every Thursday night at 6, or maybe it’s every night before you go to bed. It doesn’t matter, but find a time to do it. It’s nice to have something to look forward to, and it creates a little normalcy in the relationship. You’ll find that it becomes the part you love most about your day.

8. TELL THEM how much you APPRECIATE them. That goes for any relationship, but especially for long distance relationships. They don’t have to put themselves through this anymore than you do, but they’re choosing to anyway because they love you. TELL THEM that you appreciate them sticking by you through this. It’ll remind you that it’ll all be worthwhile.

8. Have “insiders.” For example, my boyfriend and I ONLY say “I love you back,” never “I love you too.” And we give each other “heart balloons,” which are simply (~<3) that. Just have something cute and special that makes you smile when you see it. It’s another one of those things that creates normalcy, and in long distance relationships, you appreciate every ounce of that you can get.

9. If you can, visit often. I know, that’s difficult in a lot of teenage relationships. Maybe you don’t have supportive parents, or maybe you just can’t afford it. But if you can, visit as often as possible. If you can’t, remember that it’s a temporary state. They’ll be there someday, and it’ll be worth all the waiting.

10. Remember that you’re still in a relationship. You’re far away, not single. Just because you can’t see them every day doesn’t mean you need to go tempt yourself and fulfill your “needs” with someone else. They know how you feel, they’re going through it too.

11. Be OPEN and Be THERE!  That just means exactly what it says. Be open with each other, and be there for each other. Be each other’s best friend. Only you two know what you’re going through. You live far away, so your relationship is even more unique and you have to learn how to still be a big part of the other’s life despite that. You can do it.

12. Reap the BENEFITS of a long distance relationship. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Distance strengthens your relationship in ways you can’t imagine. If you can love through the distance, you’ll never take your partner for granted again

  • You can KNOW that they love you for who you are because they don’t have the physical aspects anymore.
  • You learn how one of the most important elements in a relationship: How to be with someone, but still have your own life. I cannot stress how important that is in any relationship. You get to learn that early on. Good for you.
  • There’s an excitement to finally being with each other than short distance relationships don’t get to experience. Enjoy it!

There’s tons more benefits to a long distance relationship! Realize that and find them with your partner! Talk about it and love each other. Good luck to the both of you!

(Source: longdistancetips)

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    Definitely need to remember #4, but other than that, we goooooood :]
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